A Call to High Level Commitment in Relationships

A Call to High Level Commitment in Relationships

I had the privilege recently of being asked by Pastor Graeme Sellers to preach at
Wonderful Mercy Church (an ARC church) in Gilbert, AZ. In praying and preparing
for the sermon, I believe the Lord impressed upon me to call all ARC leaders
and member churches to a commitment to live out relationships at the highest
level. Therefore, as the Director for the ARC, I am calling all ARC churches and leaders to a
commitment to live out our relationships with one another at the highest level
through the empowering and transforming presence of the Holy Spirit (see 2 Cor
3:18). I am calling us to this commitment because as followers of Jesus Christ, godly
relationships are not optional; they are a non-negotiable.

We do not have permission from Scripture to rationalize this away by saying that we are focused on doing God’s work, focused on the mission task He’s given us, even as we may be leaving a trail of damaged relationships in our wake. For you see, Beloved, for followers of Jesus: RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE TASK. Jesus Himself tells us this in John 13:34-35:

So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples (Jn 13:34-35).

How we live out our commitment to relationship with one another will say important things to others about who God is and about what He can or cannot do in our lives. If we cannot learn to live in right relationship with one another, we do not have much of anything important to say to a culture that is relationally broken, cynical and distrustful.
How we live out our commitment to relationship with one another can give others hope that through God’s grace and power there can be a different way, a better way to live; a way that is marked by unconditional love, grace, forgiveness, and trust, rather that unforgiveness, distrust, shame, and pain.

How we live out our commitment to relationship with one another can give others hope that God does intervene in the affairs of human beings and that He does have the desire and power to change us. The way we live out our relationships with one another can show people that God is able to set us free from old habits, unhelpful ways of thinking, and hurtful ways of responding and relating to one another. How we live out our commitment to relationships with one another speaks to the world around us. What is our commitment saying?

Beloved, moving forward together in a commitment to nurture and maintain relationships at the highest level is something that our enemy fears because he knows, that alone we may be gifted, but together we are a force to be reckoned with.

Because relationships are our task as followers of Jesus Christ, IT IS NOT SURPRISING THAT RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE THE VERY PLACE OUR ENEMY WILL ATTACK. Make no mistake about it, as followers of Jesus Christ you have one who loves you with a love that is unshakable and extravagant – you are the Beloved sons and daughters of God. But just as much as you have One who loves you, you also have one who hates you and schemes to steal from you the destiny God has for you (see John 10:10; 1 Peter 5:8; Eph 6:10-12). You and I have an enemy who wants to sow and provoke unforgiveness, bitterness, chaos and division in our relationships, because if he can succeed in this he can succeed in disrupting God’s purposes in and through us to continue the ministry of Jesus in the world today.

If our desire in the Alliance of Renewal Churches is to be an alliance where relationships are a commitment that we desire to live out at the highest level, then we can be certain that those relationships will be a target of the enemy - in our homes, in our churches, and between churches and leaders. One author rightly reminds us:

“The enemy is ever drawing us to find fault with one another. Interestingly, the Greek word for ‘demon’ – means, ‘to disrupt, to rend and tear.’ The enemy attacks our minds and seeks to rend our relationships through faultfinding, often with and by those closest and dearest to us…In all manners of ways, the enemy seeks to estrange us from one another, perpetually attempting to sow discord and division.”

Beloved, let us do everything we can to zealously guard and protect our relationships with one another. Let us be ruthless in guarding against the strategy of the enemy - to deceive us with accusing thoughts of one another in order to lull us into hanging onto unforgiveness toward each other. The Apostle Paul told the followers of Christ in Corinth:

“Anyone whom you forgive, I also forgive. Indeed, what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, has been for your sake in the presence of Christ, so that we would not be outwitted by Satan; for we are not ignorant of his schemes (2 Cor 2:10-11).”

To hang onto unforgiveness is to make a choice to put ourselves in jail and to turn ourselves over to the torturers as Jesus says in Matthew 18. To hang onto unforgiveness is to surrender our freedom as Paul reminds us in Galatians 5:1 where he exhorts us, “For Freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” To hang onto unforgiveness, Beloved, is to choose to settle for less than all God has for us.

Living with unforgiveness toward one another is never spiritually permitted, though the enemy will attempt to deceive us into believing that it is, even using Scripture taken out of context as a rationale and justification for doing so. Let’s reject that and instead, let us have the courage to own our stuff in a ruptured relationship; let us humble ourselves and be the first one to say, “I was wrong. Please forgive me.” Let’s not settle for less, Beloved. Let’s do spiritual warfare and cut the enemy off at the knees by walking in love, grace and forgiveness toward one another.

If you are a member of the ARC, I am “calling you out,” and calling myself out at the same time. I am calling us out to live out a commitment to relationships at the highest level this year. I am praying that God will grace us with a humility that the world and the devil sees as a weakness, but that God sees as a strength. Let us be amongst the most humble Christian leaders in our cities, our regions, and in our country. Let us be leaders and church members who will dare to take the first step and say to another, “I was wrong, please forgive me.”

If we will do this, we will see ruptured relationships restored, and we will see our witness to a relationally hungry world increase. Living out our relationships at the highest level will make us dangerous for the Kingdom of God and a real threat to the dominion of the enemy.

In God’s Unshakable and Extravagant Love,

Mike